Had a great date.. wait, why he didn't call again?

GIRLS, girls girls girls.. I know y'all wonder this damn question, maybe waiting by your phone or checking facebook inbox or something like that. Well let's face the facts first.

You had a great date, both were having good time and enjoying yourselves. You had a vibe that he might feel something for you.. You're not sure about it because otherwise you would be making actions already.. So on the date.. Did he ASK ABOUT YOU ? Or did he just talk about himself most of the time. Was he a gentleman or more like giving you 2minded talks? Now, rewind to the moment when you discussed about going to date. Did he ask you on the date? Or did you just say "Hey we should meet up sometimes." Because if he did ask you on a date, you still may have a chance of winning. But if it was the second choice, n'aah the % of a succesful crush.. is minimal. 

imageOn a date, did you have those akward silence moments and both couldn't say a thing because the mind was running empty? THEN IT WAS NOT A GOOD DATE! Because on the first dates, you propably have so much things to discuss, because propably you don't even know the charming side of eachother yet. Unless the guy is shy, or you both are. But I think shy people would call back because they would love to give it a try. Because think about it, how many times do they get to go on the real dates? 

Guys are never unpolite unless they want to run away from the date, something like saying at the start already "I have to be somewhere at xx o'clock" <- AND THIS IS NOT ALWAYS LIKE THAT, so that you know.. sometimes guys really have some business to run to. But have you ever thought about that maybe they won't call you even you had a great date because:

  • You are not his type
  • You are too kind for him
  • You are too wild for him
  • You are way too ugly 

That was all about you but there was a more reasons to it like:

  • He is busy with works
  • He isn't looking for relationship
  • He is only looking for fun
  • He doesn't wanna ruin you
  • He just simply doesn't have time
  • He has a GIRLFRIEND 

http://healthyandbeloved.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/01/tumblr_lxt87uWoKs1r4cxtro1_500_large.jpgAnd if the case was that he promised to call you and he didn't call you after few days.. Have to thought about that maybe you are not the only one he is having a great date with. Think about it! And after all is up to you, you have to know their games to play their games!


Putting a guy in FRIENDZONE is so WRONG!

Sry for not posting anything new lately, been so busy with everything and had a evening shift week.. finally FREE DAY!

So I got a request to write about "Friendzone" which is pretty bullshit if u ask me. I know u may think that my opinion is wrong but I guess I can't change my way of thinking of it. 

What the fuck is going in the girls' mind when they put the guy in that zone. Do they really think the guy is going to stay there for them after opened up about their feelings. Do girls really expect the guy to shut down all those feelings and be just normal like they used to? I don't think so.
I hear girls' saying this too often: "You are too good friend, I really don't want to lose you." Well let me make it straight up girls. YOU HAVE ALREADY LOST HIM WHEN YOU PUT HIM IN FRIENDZONE. Like I said in earlier post, the possibility of a guy and a girl being friends is like 1 in 10 thousand. Unless! You have had something with him and both agree that it doesn't work, OR a guy is a gay, OR the smallest miracle has happened to ur friendship.

Let me tell what's gonna happen after being friendzoned. FIRST the guy is going to TRY to act like he has never felt anything for you. You still talk sometimes because he is still keeping high hopes that you might change your mind.. SO if you are still thinking about keeping him in that zone, make it clear to avoid misunderstandings. AND if you might change ur mind, let him know right away because it's not too late. SECOND is that he doesn't talk to you that often anymore, maybe sometimes when he sees you he says Hi and ask about your life but nothing more than that.. and in the end u don't even keep in touch anymore.. A guys' mind is simple, try to get what you want and if you don't get it.. get away from it and avoid it. 

Here's the tip for girls. You really don't want to friendzone a guy, believe me.. But to keep it simple and nice: Keep the sparkle between you2 but don't make a fuzz about it. Even if there were more guys. I mean don't flirt but just keep the guys' interest on, that's how you can keep them close enough.. BUT nothing lasts forever.. For example: Make the guy like you but not too much, don't talk with him too much because that's making him coming too close which makes him like u or dislike you.. a distance is good sometimes, to avoid situations where things end up like shit!

To the next time then my loves :) 


Work hard, lay low..


Been busy with the gym lately, I started working out since monday. UFF I'm broken from every part of my body but I guess it's worth it. Work + gym = no free time at all! But I guess, it's time to tell you a story.. A story about how and why the guy turns to be a PLAYER..

Behind every PLAYER is the sad story, before he was player or on the time he was a player. Every player falls for their game once in a while.. Feels the love when caught up in their own game. And end up being hurt.. That's when the monster borns! Either player was being hurt or his selfconfidense is fucked up! Believe me I know. Guys are like hunters, we have a need to hunt new preys after catching one. Ofc there comes a time when guys want to settle down.. It's just a big question mark that when ? Some player changes to be better ones after they regret their doings but I think some of 'em won't even change. It's up to ourselves how we act and what we cause with our actions.

Feel free to tell ask, or suggest some topics you want me to discuss about :)

Peace out!


Is he or is he not... TRUSTWORTHY?


I kinda read Cosmopolitan few days ago, cuz one girl told me there were topics worth to read. After I read it.. whatta f*cking bullshit they are feeding to women's mind? BLAH! Something like.. "how to see the signs, is the guy interested" or "how you know that the guy is really into you". 

I know this may sound a bit ruff but this is the ugly truth. MOST of the guys.. thinks with their penis. Ofc there's some exceptions but since the style of nowadays is "fast dating", this is the result, PENIS = BRAINS. Okay here comes 3 facts again. There's 3 kind of guys in this world:

ONES that know they can't get better and tries to keep the girl satisfied, they are trustworthy because they are afraid to loose.. They wont fool around!

ONES that chases the girls, always tryna update to the "latest model". They can't get enough of one, sometimes they pull too many strings at the same time, so propably they always call you BABE just not to confuse with the names. Never trust these ones, not worth to spend the time on them. One night stand is okay but if you're looking forward to relationship, get over it!

and the LAST ONES that knows where the line goes, those guys has been through those "playfull" times already and know what they are capable of. Wanting to settle down and keeping that woman satisfied. You, Ladies, have to put some effort in these guys to keep them happy cuz if they don't feel it, they will walk it out. They know exactly what they want, how they want and with who they want. So believe me when I say, trust them, endure them, and make it last for long. + these men are hard to find unless they are over 30y =D

THERE'S NO SUCH A THING AS SIGNS! If the guy wants to date you, he will make it happen. If the guy wants to call you, he will ask your phone number. If the guy wants to fuck you, he will propably talk BS with you. And if you think something he is doing is the sign, forget it.. HE WILL TELL YOU THAT HE LIKES YOU WHEN HE IS READY unless his actions says more than words! But if you like him and you are unsure about his thoughts, show him with your actions, You can cook for him, every guy loves food.. TRUST ME!



Freaking cold Finland!

Been busy couple days so now I managed to write another post ^__^ yay! So.. It's weekend and at last I can sleep well tonight, been sleeping badly for this whole week and been too tired after work to post something in here

It's freaaaaking cold out there right now. -10 at nights and days are something around -2. Everyday waking up by 5 and have to run to work almost right after waking up '__'  That's what I do daily. Shitty life isn't it!

cold as f#cked

I'm planning to start the gym once again in next week, hopefully I won't quit this time like those other times (lack of motivation). I was thinking, "why don't I allow myself some private and enjoying time". Always been a kind of a guy that goes more with other peoples life, in this case.. GIRLS! Never though much for myself and I know that my actions tells another story than what I'm saying right now. So let the "Learn to love yourself" be the topic of the day!

They say "you can't love another unless you learn to love yourself". I somehow start to understand this phrase more since I've been thinking for myself. You have to let yourself do what you like, do what you love.. no matter what people says. And if someone can share that all with you, it's just a big bonus to it. DO NOT change your opinions and actions for another one unless they prove you wrong. Here's an example: You drink often, you go partying often.. There's no wrong in it if you are single.. BUT if you are in relationship, put yourself into your loveone's boots, then maybe you can see the world differently. If they did the same things you did, how would you feel. Okay, we are individual, we feel different way but open up your heart and ears for another one. Sometimes we don't understand why they wanna change us but most of the time, they only think GOOD for us. I somehow now got lost from the topic.

So back on to it. I can't say that all women but most of them, likes when man can be selfconfident, that the man knows exactly what he wants and what he likes. How is it builded up? By giving yourself time to know yourself, your interest and your likes. The man who can take care of himself, not only in financial way but in everyway in life, can get the girl just like that. You know why? Because women has the need to be taken cared off! At least at the start, can't guaranteen the ending of the story =D Because most of the time the table turns around. Learn to love yourself has another meaning too: Learn to take care of yourself, to care about yourself. Wish it was that easy. I never go shopping to buy something for myself, okay can't say never but maybe once in one year. When I'm in relationship, I'm selfish in some things but when it comes to caring, I always care for another person so I forget about myself. And the time when I start to think for myself, I will forget about another. Why it can't be balanced? Maybe it's the beauty of loving, you have to learn it just to do it. 

So this was just a small piece of the cake. I'll bite it bigger next time! Gotta get some sleep before work!
Til next time!  




 I'm new so y'all propably don't know me yet. So I started over a new blog just to write mostly about my life experiences, my point of view to the things like.. let's make that THING today's topic. You people call it love, I call it an illusion to trick us daily. And ofc I DO believe in love too but tell me when u recognize that it's real? Is it when you hold someone's hand and u feel ting-a-ling in ur tummy? I used to think that I know what love is but you know, holding on to it is the ruff part in relationship. And mostly NOT GETTING LOST on the road of love.

There's 3 facts about guys, that y'all girls should know by now. If you don't know it yet, I bet you will! Hopefully opening this pandora box won't shock your world too much. 

FIRST we all guys look at other girls, it's a human nature to feel being attracted by another sexual gender. If someone has a nice ass or just big juicy tits, it's a pleasant to watch. Girls shouldn't get mad at us, can watch but don't touch, right?

SECOND I bet it's hard to find, not impossible but hard to find a guy who doesn't watch porn. SERIOUSLY! If a guy says to the girl that I never watch porn, really baby, I never do. Then I bet he is a liar or an effing saint. BUT there is an exception becuz if you GIRL please your man everyday, everynight, I bet he doesn't need to do that right? So know you know how to make your man stop doing it if you don't like him doing it. 

THIRD every guy has cheated once in their life. In words or in physical way. And this is a true story. Don't judge the guy for the games he had played but more like hope that the guy has changed the game before he met you or at least after met you. Some of us, has been hooked up in the game, it's not that easy to change but I do believe that there's always that ONE girl that can sweep off our asses to the floor and make us think again about our life. 

So there was the three facts that will always remain in man's history. Back to the topic.. 

Sometimes we think we truly love someone, from the bottom of our hearts but why the heck are we doing mistakes relationship after relationship. Guys caught up cheating, girls caught up cheating.. fights fights, make up to breakup. Jumping from one sinking ship to the next sinking ship. It's almost always like this: first year, the guy is the sweetest you've ever known. He does everything for you, be everywhere and everything for you. Says sweet things to make you happy, that's what I used to be. Then slowly the guy changes, becomes a emotionless dickhead who doesn't wanna go anywhere, just want to chill and be by himself. I have wondered why guys even fall into the path of cheating. I think I figured it out: we love the first year feeling, feeling of falling in love, that our action has an effort to the girl. But we never try to build it again with the ones we fell in love already, how come? I guess we know already the reaction of our girls, that it doesn't feel so special anymore. 

But sry for running out of time this time. I will be back for the next time, continuing this topic or changing the topic, let's see what mood I'm on.. TO BE CONTINUED